My ex (BMad's father) called me bawling yesterday. He's really ill & helpless & no one would come help him. So, I did. I brought him water & Gatorade. I spent like 4hrs cleaning his apt. As I emptied his trash in his bathroom, I came across condom wrappers.. I cried. Had a cigarette. finished the bathroom in tears.
I told him it hurt me..
He got upset at me for mentioning it..
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:'(
I keep making someone a priority who has zero respect for my feelings.
Awesome.
I think your a liar.
ReplyDeleteWell, Anonymous I have no reason to lie. I walked back in from smoking & told him that it hurt me that he lied, that he was using me, that he made me believe there was still hope for us white he was with someone else, & he said "really?" Shrugged his shoulders & rolled his eyes. Because, as always, I'm not & nor have I ever been important to him. He is the most important thing to him..
ReplyDeleteYou are a liar. You fabricate stories in your head that you want to believe is real and you think about it so much that you really do think its reality.Just because someone is nice to you does not mean they want to get tangled back into your sociopathic web. Your not wanted. He prolly wouldn't think twice about never ever getting involved with you again. Maybe if you didn't complain about your ex or your pathetic life so much some dude might actually be interested in you. Its not attractive to hear a woman bitch and moan.
ReplyDeleteDo I know you? Do you know him? Were you around when any of this was happening? Doubtful. You feel the need to insult me & call me names. You're hiding behind that anonymous because you have no spine. Just like him.. Verbally abusive.. Also can't use you're correctly.. A lot of similarities there..
ReplyDeleteDon't you think you are being a lil hard on her? You know that doesn't even matter. You are either someone directly involved. And your comments are more self serving that anything. Or you are someone on the outside looking in. In which case it is not your place to be saying these things. And quit using my name. You are not Anonymous! I am!!! First name Al. Short for Alcoholic's.
ReplyDeleteWhat? Does it anger you to have a man stand up for another dad out there who has basically had his kid taken away and kept from him because of a woman like you? I am a activist for getting a father's rights enforced. Women like you only use their kids for a check to support their habits, yours seems to be wine. Then they make the whole world feel so bad for them because they're a single mom, you did it to yourself! You're a single mom by choice. Your kid could have a father in her life if you would just drop your attitude and let the man pick his kid. You are creating issues for that kid. She's going to grow up with emotional problems because you're too selfish about how you feel.
ReplyDeleteOh no.. I have had wine twice in a month! I must be an alcoholic! Silly rabbit.. So, I stay home & have a few glasses of wine after an awful week, after my child was in bed for the night. I have plenty of people around & in my life that know what kind of a parent I am. I don't need approval from you or him.
DeleteI'm angry because the father of my child abandoned his daughter. Refuses to take responsibility as a parent. Coming & going out of her life whenever he feels like. You're damn right I'm angry. my daughter deserves better than someone treats her like property. You are obviously the angry one.. Your anger is being directed at me. The $524 he pays a month helps, but not much.. He doesn't get to abstain from his duties as a parent & then play the victim.
ReplyDeleteDon't fuckin explain yourself to this jerk. Wait! That wasn't an order. You shouldn't feel the need to explain yourself to this dumbass. No matter what. He doesn't know the whole story. I don't know the whole story either. The only ones that know it all are you and the baby's dad. This guy isn't an activist for father's rights. He is just an activist for starting shit.
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Let the man be a father then. Let him build a relationship with the kid. Maybe if you wouldn't go back and forth in your head so much and keep a steady schedule for him and the kid then everybody would be happy. Can you wrap your little head around that concept. Get over the fact that he doesn't want you except for a parental relationship. Women like you get to clingy and hold onto the past to much. Let it go. Do your kid a favor and let her see the man that gave her life so she won't be an emotional wreck like you. You said he pays cs? Good, but along with that he deserves to see the kid. Give you a break so you can go see a friend or something. Or watch her while you work and save you some money? Think logic and stop letting your emotions hurt your child. Every father deserves to be a father.
ReplyDeleteThis must be his daddy... Why is it that his parents still feel the need to treat him like a child... No wonder he refuses to grow up & take care of his child.. No wonder he's making excuses to fuck a 19yro instead of upholding his half of the parenting. He doesn't want his daughter to interfere with that. What happened between him & I is water under the bridge. My issues with him are his lack of give a fuck about his daughter & then he wants to cry foul like it's my fault. Well, Ray you raised a hell of a man! Apple didn't fall from the tree from what I've gathered? Get off my blog. Globe just as cowardly as sperm donor!
ReplyDeleteWho is Ray? I don't recall having a name change? I'm a father who has had my ex wife pull the exact shit you do, luckily I got my children away from her poisonous ways. But on the contrary she is allowed time with them because they need a mother in their life. She's now with a new guy, good for her.All I'm saying is you're too caught up in your emotions to even care about your child's future emotional state. That's sad. How could you be so selfish? You obviously either still love him or want him or his money or something if you're throwing out that he's with someone new and rejected you. Sounds like jealousy to the T. If you care about your kid like you say you do, let her have a dad. Actions speak louder than words.
ReplyDeleteYou're either completely nuts, you don't listen, or both. His child support doesn't cover HALF what it costs to care for her. Anything outside of what he pays every month I'm to deal with. It's not his problem. We have a court order in place he refuses to follow. At no point have I kept him from his child. He doesn't get to make excuses (I'm too tired, broke, sick, don't have the gas) to pick his daughter up, but then go hang out with his gf. I don't give a fuck who he's porking. I care about the fact that he's a deadbeat. He makes excuses. abandons his daughter. Pops in & out of her life on a whim, but somehow I'm to blame? How exactly does that work? I'm sorry it bothers you that I expect him to act like a father. He doesn't, he isn't, & he doesn't care to be.
ReplyDeleteNot once in 2 months has her father called & asked how she was. Asked if she needed anything. Asked to see her. I asked him if he wanted to see her on her first bday. I was told no. I have texts & emails to back it all up too.
ReplyDeleteIf you haven't talked to him then how do you know he doesn't want to see his kid? He probably thinks about his kid all the time.A little girl to a father is a dream, let he man be there for her.Do you enjoy arguing? Because it seems like you would rather fight than prevent emotional harm to your child. And let me just say by the child support amount you receive, you are so lucky. I have 2 kids and I only get $350 for child support from my ex wife and I carry the insurance in full (not split). Kids are expensive, I know. But shit ask nicely and you shall receive, don't be so argumentative and demanding.
ReplyDeleteYou come on here. Attack someone you don't know & ask if I like to argue? Wow... I've spoken to him usually in the form of him calling & screaming obscenities at me & accusing me of being an awful mother.. Looks like to me, you're no different than he is.. I have a daughter to raise. I don't have time for his bullshit, much less yours..
ReplyDeleteOk so if I don't defend him for a second and say yes he has probably not been the most perfect person. Please tell me who is? You say he's yelled obscenities at you but are you going to tell me you've not once been ugly first or at all. And I don't mean defending yourself, I mean flat out calling him names like you say he does. Don't be a hypocrite. Do you ever take any responsibility for your actions? I doubt it.
ReplyDeleteI have absolutely done & said things I'm not proud of. I have absolutely been ugly to him & I've apologized. I've done my best to not be ugly to him, but I don't deserve to be abused. By anyone. I'm not perfect. Not even close, but I have bent over backwards for that man. If he wants to be a daddy, then he beds to step up & be a dad. I've never stopped him. But if I'm an asshole because I'm not ok with him locking his child in her playpen for hours, letting his daughter pee through her diaper, & all over herself, them so be it. I will not let anyone, including yet father mistreat & neglect her. So, you defend him all you want.
ReplyDeleteI defend the fathers who are innocent against women like you. That are the most disrespectful scum on the planet. White trash. You complain he doesn't give enough for his kid but you obviously don't want him involved. I hope no other man falls for you and knocks you up, then there will be another defenseless father out there. Do that possible man a favor and get your tubes tied so you can't reproduce more emotionally harmed children.
ReplyDeleteYou're obviously as deluded as he is. You two could be bffs. That's cute. Insult away. You are nobody to me. My daughter is happy & healthy & it's no thanks to Sperm Donor. Being present in a child's life for 3 months of a year doesn't make him a daddy. I guess protecting my daughter & busting my ass 40+ hrs a wk & spending ALL my free time doing stuff with my daughter makes me white trash. Ok :) I don't need approval from him it spineless ball-less wonders like yourself. You feel the need to verbally abuse someone you know NOTHING about. You completely ignite the fact that my ex has WILLINGLY walked away from his daughter. Repeatedly. You're just doing what he does: blaming me for his shortcomings as a man & a father.. If I could take back putting him on her birth certificate or giving her his last name.. I would in a fucking heart beat. He's made it clear this isn't about her. "You need to call the OAG & stop my child support. I'm not seeing her. That's not fair to ME." Me. Me. Me. When does this become about what's best for my daughter? To him. Never. All he cares about is $. Things. People don't matter to him, unless they have a use. His daughter doesn't. Stop he won't drive 15mins 3 days a wk to pick her up. So, because I won't cone running at his beck & call anymore I'm somehow responsible for the fact that he doesn't want to put the effort forth?
ReplyDeleteSounds legit.
Screw the back and forth bs in the comments. I'm sorry that happened to you. I can't imagine how your heart must have hurt...actually I can. Hugs to you. xo Shawna.
ReplyDeleteWOW Summer you get the kick ass award for the day!! tell 'um what you really think!
ReplyDelete*cheer* Go Summer, Go Summer, Go Summer, Go Summer, Goooooooooooooooooo Summer
It just occurred to me Douchebag here is probably his deadbeat dad friend Johnny. The coke head pimp.. Lol that's cute
ReplyDeleteYou need drugs if you're not already on them, some kind of mood stabilizer big time. You seem bipolar by the other blogs I've read and for your kids sake should really get on medication so you don't create problems with her later on. Bipolar disorder can not only control/ruin your life but affect everyone else around you. Get help.
ReplyDeleteLook, princess, if you're going to judge my entire life on a blog I barely write in, you need a life & a reality check. If anyone beds to be in meds it's your bf. Oh.. Wait.. The Dr put him on anti-psychotics that he refuses to take. Step off little girl.
ReplyDeleteAs far as I'm concerned this is now harassment & the next time you post anything on this blog I will have charges filed. You might be anonymous, but that'sthe funny thing about IPs, they can be traced back..
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